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Mental Health Matters

Too often we focus on of physical health, others people's well being, or pleasing others instead of prioritizing ourselves.  I am not a scientist or a researcher, but I feel as though the more our society has moved towards  * instant gratification   * public appeal * social media exploitation, and * the good of the whole and making sure everyone is more comfortable in a situation The more we've moved away from knowing ourselves. As a result, we no longer take the time to recognize what is going on, no longer listen to our personal needs and feelings, and as a result (in my opinion) have drastically increased  * anxiety * depression * anger management issues * body issues * and so much more.  By not allowing ourselves time and space to know and listen to ourselves, by not being taught how our that is OKAY to take that time and create that foundation, we have created a culture that is so unaware of themselves and scared to be themselves or even discover what that might mean.  It&
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Listen to Your Body

I was reading the High 5 Habit by Mel Robins lately, and in it she talked about recognizing the physical signs of your body when you encounter situations so you can become aware sooner and put strategies into place to deal with your reactions as well as the situation.  Or at least that was part of my takeaway.  If that is not what she meant, than I apologize for misrepresenting her words, but I think it's an important idea all the same.  I have been fortunate (sheltered?) most of my life to have encountered predominantly positive relationships and situations. Sure, I've had my share of sadness, difficulty, and challenge to overcome, but I'm also aware of my privilege in how much i HAVEN'T experienced or been personally exposed to.  As we go through adulthood, though, I feel like we encounter and engage with a larger spectrum of individuals and the likelihood of negativity increases. Which makes self awareness and regulation, all that more important. Why?  What I've
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FEAR - Time to run or rise

Maybe it's too simplistic for how varied life truly is, but if it's a choice between running from something or rising in myself, I'm going to choose to rise.  There is power in running, but only when you run to your goal, or away from whatever will hold you back.  There is not power in avoidance.  I have retreated a bit this winter. Maybe letting some fear settle around me of what I'm capable of achieving. I stopped myself from achieving my own goals through lack of action. I became my own self fulfilling prophecy.  I recently went live in my fit family group about reassessing goals, and if you haven't achieved them then you're not taking the action steps to get there. So either adjust the timeline of expectation, or step up the action to get where you want to be.  I can't achieve what I don't work for, but I can't experience rejection of I don't try. What I'm realizing, though, is that rejection is what you make of it, and I'd rather go
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Time is Relative

Time management  "the process of planning and exercising conscious control of time spent on specific activities, especially to increase effectiveness, efficiency, and productivity.  Wikipedia " For years, I've been congratulated on my organizational skills, on my ability to get things done, to use my time and resources so well as to stand out from the crowd.  I feel like it's always a house of cards. Balancing efficiency with laziness so as to get things done while doing it without a lot of effort.  That balance can only take you so far. Especially if you decide you want to go further, push out of your comfort zone.  "Work smarter, not harder" But what if you already do? To do more still feels harder and off balance since it's still fights against the previous plan.  So how do you change? How do you find a NEW balance, or your first go? Take action.  Seriously.  Focusing on the planning will stop you before you go. It can overwhelm and be the crutch to k
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Fitness is NOT One-Size-Fits-All

In my workout today the trainer said "Focus on the weight you lift, not on the weight you lose" Read that again. So often we start workout programs to lose weight and to be a smaller size. What if we flipped the script and challenged the societal expectations and did it because it makes us feel: - strong - empowered - happy - sane I want to be able to lift and carry my children for as long as they ask! I may not always say yes, but I don't want my no to be because I CAN'T! Focusing on the act and the benefits of the moment can really help shift your mind from a result.  Live in the journey, not for the destination.
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What Sets Your Soul on Fire?

I was telling my fit family community the other day that last year was all about finding joy. Finding joy in the everyday things. Finding joy in movement, in art, in reading, in anything that will make you smile in that day. And last year was great year.  But this year?  This year is all about doing what sets my soul on fire! This!  What is the difference?  The difference is PASSION. It's what drives you. It's what gets you up in the morning and gets you to do the things that bring you joy. Passion is what is going to sustain you and give you the reason why when the things are hard.  Just because your soul is on fire and you love what you do and it brings you joy, does it make it easy doesn't always make it easy doesn't always make it what you want to do in the moment. But passion for it, passion for what you're doing and just knowing in the bottom most part of yourself, in that place that just drives you to choose, that what you're doing is RIGHT. Will always m
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Love Your Body TODAY

The thing is, no matter how much you workout, change your eating habits, or change your clothes. If you can't find a way to love yourself and your body for what it is, and what it has done for you, TODAY you'll never be satisfied tomorrow.  Let's think on this.  You put in months (maybe years) of effort. Restriction diets, hours in the gym, likely doing things you don't necessarily enjoy, but because you're told it's what you "should" do to lose weight, look a certain way,  love who you are.  You are miserable, mentally, and looking at yourself in the mirror all you see are the flaws, the imperfections, the areas that still need "improvement". There is never an end, never the congratulations, never a feeling of love or appreciation for yourself.  Sound familiar?  What we need to do as individuals, and frankly as a society, is to flip the script. Speak words out loud of appreciation and love for our body and what it can do and has done for us.
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